A Sexy Scene Using The Foreplay Tips

In the previous post I listed Seven Sexy Tips For Fabulous Foreplay. I’m sure you’re able to get through Tips #1 and #2 without any help, so I’ll start at Tip #3: Undress her slowly.

You’ve kissed, or whatever, and it’s clear she wants to make love. Facing each other, look her in the eyes, and begin to slowly undress her, taking off out clothes before moving to underwear and bra. Let her stand there for a moment in just bra and panties while you appreciate the way she looks. Don’t talk, unless it’s a compliment about her body you just can’t hold back. Then take off her bra, then slowly slide down her panties. You should bend down to get them off her feet. Guide her hand to your shoulder for balance if she needs it.

This is the point to reign in your impulse to grab her hot zones. Remember the goal: Inducing the right neurochemicals in the right order for great sex. Slow and steady wins the race.

If you want, let her undress you at this point, also slowly and without any real touching or talking. Or stay clothed. Either way is good. There is something really sexy about being the naked, vulnerable one while your man is clothed but not rushing to touch you in a sexual manner. Just knowing your man is in control of his impulses makes us wet and want you more.

Begin caressing her in a non-sexual manner, smoothing your hands over her in long, slow strokes. Don’t let her do anything, yet. Turn her so her back is to you, and pull her against your body – gently, but firmly. No big hugs or anything just yet. Place your left hand (if you’re right-handed) on her lower abdomen, in between her belly-button and her public hair line. This hot-spot is right over our vaginal canal and ovaries. The heat and light pressure is another key to the fabulous foreplay door. Don’t do anything but hold her near you, gently, but firmly, using your palm and not your arm.

While keeping your left hand in place, begin caressing her skin with your right hand. Thread your fingers up the back of her neck and into her hair, gently but firmly pulling a fistful of her her hair back from the nape of her neck. Smell her neck. This should produce goosebumps. Caress all of her skin you can reach, also caressing with your left hand when you’ve reached all you can with the right. Place a hand on either side of her hips and slide them down the outside of her legs. When you reach her ankles, slowly slide you hands up the inside, lightly brushing against her outer lips when you reach the top.

Turn her around to face you when you’ve covered all of the front of her skin at least once. Do her back while holding her against you more fully than before. You’re slowly increasing the body contact in steps, as well as the pressure. Add a squeeze to her buttocks, lifting her cheeks up and apart. Begin kneading other areas, just don’t give any specific attention to her nipples or clitoris.

If you’re not naked, now it’s her turn to undress you. If you are, then she can start with the caressing.

Before you cringe at the idea of more delay, I challenge you to just try this. Have her do this to you, too. We may be different sexes, but the neurochemistry is very similar at this point.

Damn, is it hot in here? This was good for me. I hope it’s good for you, too.

This is just one scene that came to my mind the other day. Massage is also another good way to work the skin, but you should have a little skill at this. You don’t need to take classes, but you should have a few Swedish- or Esalen- style massages from professional, licensed masseuses. Pay attention to how they touch you.

There are plenty of ways to accomplish your goal, but this will give you an idea how to use the tips if you haven’t yet developed a plan of your own.

Speaking of which, I would love to have a man’s view of what you like for foreplay. Do you guys really want to just get to the sex as soon as possible, or do you also enjoy foreplay as outlined above and in the tips? Have you ever tried it? Please submit your stories or long comments to swtrpnzl @ aim dot com and I will post them. You can request total anonymity, or to have your name published, and a backlink to your own site.