Seven Sexy Tips For Fabulous Foreplay

Do you want to have more sex? Do you want to have better sex?

I’m pretty sure you just yelled, “Yes”, at the screen.

The Art of Foreplay continues to perplex men. It’s not really their fault. It’s not taught in school, and movies portray foreplay rather poorly. Watch a movie and you think foreplay is a deep kiss, followed by removal of clothes, and then sex.

There is no foreplay in that scene. A deep kiss doesn’t count.

With the hope of bringing better sex to everyone, I’m going to list seven tips on foreplay, and then use them in a sexy scene. What I’m about to tell you is what gets me hot. Really hot. So hot in fact, I’m getting excited just thinking about it.

Foreplay 101: The Basics

1. Sex happens in the brain. No, really it does. The best sex happens when the neurochemicals are produced, or rather, induced in the right order. You get to induce them, that’s what foreplay is all about. You probably have no idea how much power you have, literally at your finger tips. You have far more control than you imagine. Men, this is the key to all our dreams. 

2. Foreplay is what happens between sexual acts, not before. This starts after the last sexual encounter and long before you get near the bed again. Believe it or not, it’s those little things that get a woman going and we consider them foreplay:

• A kiss before one of you leaves, and a kiss and a hug when one of you arrives.
• Take us out to dinner, and/or a movie. Real dates are important, especially if you’ve been together for a while. Don’t stop dating.
• Hold hands in public and other PDA.
• Tell her she looks sexy when she’s just out of the shower, or in that dress, or bikini, or with bed head, whatever. But be sincere, because we can tell.
• A little squeeze of her rear as you pass each other in the kitchen.
• Help around the house – even if you don’t live there. Pick up your dishes, etc. If you spend a lot of time there, do more than pick up the dishes. Yes, this is foreplay.
• Telling us what you like about our personality. It’s not all about looks for us – we need to know you like our brains, too. Refer to Tip #1

3. Undress her slowly. Don’t rip her clothes off unless you’ve both agreed to have wild, animal sex. Caress her skin as you undress her. (See Tip #4 for how to caress.)

4. The skin is the largest organ, and therefore, the quickest and best way to start foreplay – once you’ve got her clothes off. Caress the skin to start the neruochemical process.

5. Caressing in a non-sexual manner is intoxicating. Seriously intoxicating. I’m getting warm just thinking about this. Once you get her naked, start caressing the skin in a non-sexual manner. Pretend you just got a new body (hers) and you want to feel it all over. Skip touching the genitals for now. If you caress the breasts after you’ve been smoothing your hands over her body for several minutes, do it in a non-sexual manner. Don’t squeeze them, or pinch her nipples. Just smooth your hand over them like it was her thigh.

6. Gentle, but firm. Touch is best delivered (in my humble opinion) gently, but firmly. Don’t be afraid to touch us with some pressure; it shows you have confidence. Confidence is sexy.

7. Tell us what you like done to you, and encourage us to tell you what we like. I had a boyfriend who got offended when we first had oral sex. When he was doing a move that did nothing for me, I mentioned moving like “this” really got me off. I didn’t critique his move, just said I really liked this other move and could he do that. He got offended, said he knew how to please a woman. Really? If he did I wouldn’t have had to give him suggestions. Don’t ever assume we all like the same technique just because we have the same parts. That’s just stuuupid. I’ve never assumed all men like getting head the same way. I’ll start off doing what I think he’ll like, but then I’ll ask how he likes the pressure, or does he like this move or that move. Can I suck on and nibble your balls?

Oh, and don’t ever stop to answer the phone during sexy time. That’s an instant buzz kill. God made voicemail so we could have uninterrupted sexy time.

If you’re like me, you’re probably visually oriented. In the following post I describe a short, sexy scene to help illustrate these tips.